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The greatest thing anyone can do is love another person, unconditionally. What does this mean? It means that you may not approve of what someone does or you may not agree with what someone says, but you still love that person anyway. If you have lived through judgments, you should be the first one to love another unconditionally. Why? Because you know what it feels like to be judged even though someone might not know all of the circumstances. If you are in need of love, go find someone to love. That may mean offering an encouraging word, showing appreciation, giving something that someone needs materially, giving a hug....the point is, there is something you can do. So do it!

1. This is the third time I posted my situation, so this time will be brief.  56-year-old disabled woman; $967/month Social Security Disability; Medicare; two strokes in last year; severe osteoporosis, chronic pain; Bi-Polar; COPD;   Owe $286,000 in medical bills.  I am in DIRE need of transportation to doctor appointments, pharmacy, grocery.  I have missed three appointments with my psychiatrist in the last six months.

I had to pay $37 for a taxi to take me on a 6-mile round trip to pick up medications at the closest pharmacy.  I am willing to pay for gas and your time, but need to find two rides in the next two weeks.

HELP, please, and GOD bless you.

April

Everyone has days where they feel blah, down, or sad. Typically, these feelings disappear after a day or two, particularly if circumstances change for the better. People experiencing the temporary "blues" don't feel a sense of crushing hopelessness or helplessness, and are able, for the most part, to continue to engage in regular activities. Prolonged anhedonia (the inability to experience pleasure), hopelessness, and failure to experience an increase in mood in response positive events rarely accompany "normal" sadness. The same may be said for other, more intense sorts of symptoms such as suicidal thoughts and hallucinations (e.g., hearing voices). Instead, such symptoms suggest that serious varieties of depression may be present, including the subject of this document: Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) or (more informally), Major Depression.

For people dealing with Major Depression, negative feelings linger, intensify, and often become debilitating.

Major Depression is a common yet serious medical condition that affects both the mind and body. It is a complex illness, creating physical, psychological, and social symptoms. Although informally, we often use the term "depression" to describe general sadness, the term Major Depression is defined by a formal...

I have been spiraling out of control for about two years. I had a good job, a great life and a promising future. I was layed off from my good job two years ago and have not been able to recover. I have cycled through two subsequent jobs , but I have just been let go from my new job and I don't know how to tell my family and friends. I can't sleep or eat properly. I am 2 months behind in rent and about 50k in debt. I have nowhere else to turn. I am an educated, intelligent, hard working person, but this debt and depression are runing my life. Any donations that can be made will help.

I desperately need advice. I don't know what to do and I can't exactly talk to anyone i know about this. Where to start. My life is all tangled. First of all I am a 21 year old college student. I secretly married last August without my family's knowledge. (my husband's family doesnt know either) I did that because My husband is the only one that makes me happy I will never find another person like him ever again, he is my soul mate and im sure of it. Anyways, my mom was 22 when she gave birth to me, she left me when i was 2 months old to go to America to make some money. Let's foreward a little bit, I was about 5 years old when I came to America. I was reunited with my mother and my uncles. You would think that she would want to make up for lost time. I was wrong. All she did was go to work, and when she got home she took a shower to get ready for the club ( i was responsible for washing her dishes while she was away) and when she got back all she did was sleep and told me to make her food. Did I mention she has narcissistic personality disorder? She is obsessed with looking young and tells everyone that she is my younger sister. She is 43 for crying out loud, and I can see those crows feet from a foot away. As a kid she would also smack me, pull my hair, kick me, throw water at my face when i talked back. I would get out of elementary school at 3:15pm she always forgot to pick me up, I waited till 7pm in the school office till she picked me up. She always said that daycare was too expensive. She never packed me lunch or gave me money, I either starved, mooched off of my friends, or steal when i was desperate... On my last year of high school we got into an argument, I ended up with a broken finger... I went to school for a few days like that. Until one day, she noticed it was purple. She got scared and took me to a hospital to get it checked out. Before we got there she was trying to be nice to me because I was 17, and to my understanding I could have told them what really happened and gotten her in trouble. She said to lie for her and that she was sorry for what she did. I fell for it. Only because I wanted so bad for my mom and me to get along.  I have a little brother, she  treats him perfectly. She doesn't harm him in anyway. And if you went to our house you would see how it is filled with pictures of my little brother, my step dad, and her. She keeps saying how she loves us both equally but that is just a lie. Her "love" is made up of lies. She keeps me here because it is convenient for her. I cook I clean I fix her bed I fold her laundry I do everything she ask me, and I kiss her ass a little extra by buying her food from tapioca express just so she will let me go stay with my husband over the weekend. It's so ridiculous. Everytime she needs me I am always there even though she is rotten to me. But when I need her she turns her back on me. When I was small, I was close to getting raped. I was walking home from school. I remember being hit in the face... I was dizzy.. and I grabbed a pencil in my pocket and stabbed the man. I ran all the way home crying with blood dripping from my face. I told her about it. All she had to say was "oh it's not like he stuck it in you, just be thankfull. Get over it" How can I get over something like that!? I was 8 years old... Wow this is getting pretty long... I think I have made it clear as to what kind of person she is. To make a long story short, she has been nagging me to give her my husbands address. I DO NOT trust her with that information. She says "just  in case of emergency". I cannot give it to her because I am scared that she will tell my whole family and they will hunt my husband/me down, and I am really thinking about moving in with my husband. My husband is soo nice to her despite the fact that she uses him as a servant. She treats us like we are obligated to cater to her every need. That's how it has always been. I want to move out without violence. My mom can get crazy. I don't know what to do. I know i am 21 and I have the power to move out. Only thing that holds me back is my grandma. She gets nervous break downs easily, she has just recovered from cancer, and i do not want my family blaming me "your fault why your grandma died.!!" All these years I have been patient letting my mom slip. I have been taught to respect my elders no matter what. I dont know what to do anymore... My family interferes too much in my life. If I am gone they will freak out because they won't have a babysitter anymore. It's not like they pay me. all they say is " when you were little I took care of you" I have 3 uncles and an aunt... that isnt fair becaues i was only 1 child... they all have families now and i have 7 cousins to take care of on my own because I am the oldest. That's not right. They have no shame. I have been suicidal for the longest time now and im on the verge of giving up hope (I would probably just overdose im too scared to stab myself). Only one that keeps me alive is my husband... I don't know what to do... I am a good student, I am responsible, I am a very good daughter, I respect my elders although they treat me like shit, I never tried drugs or drink or smoke... I dont even go clubbing. I focus on school.. only thing i do for fun is play videogames and spend time with my husband... what do they want from me I am always obligated to serve them just because they are old I am their personal Cinderella. I am not allowed to be free. All my vacation from school goes to babysitting their children and cleaning and cooking for them... I am desperate to give up I can't  take anymore.

Well I am balding severly and I am only 23.  I work full time and barley get by with all my bills.  The problem is that I want to get a hair transplant but there is no way I can afford it.  I am becoming very depressed and I am suicidal.  I know some wil think I should toughen up but I can't.  I cry everyday about my hair as it flies of my head at an alarming rate.  I don't know if I want live.  If I was older I think i could bear it but I am young.  Girls don't even look at me nor do I have the confidence to talk to them.  I am completely sick about it.  If there is anyone that can relate and actually had a hair transplant and have the means to help a young man with a loan that I can pay back, I would do anything.

This is just a way of getting through to people who are about ready to give up on life.I myself was into passive suicide-drinking myself into oblivion self medicating -over medicating -not caring about myself life or anything  around me. This is a selfish way to live. Please know life is a challenge. Sometimes it seems there is no fairness in this world. In reality life is not fair it is no bowl of cherries-but adversity and struggles make us who we are.You are here for a purpose a reason. I am not a Bible pusher -But believe there is something greater than ourselves at work-I just wan people to know iff you need to talk I am here please feel free to contact me- I don't have all the answers -I am not rich but I have been a homeless worthless messed up junkie trying to die.So if you do need support I am here.

Hi,

I will put in a picture once I have the chance.

Basically, I need some assistance for the following reasons:

-Suicidal 

-$100,00+ in debt (educational)

-Lost my job

-Car won't start

-Lost my friends and my family is starting to turn their backs on me

I really don't feel like living anymore and I just need something to keep me going.

Hi, my name is Steve, and I suffer from bipolar disorder, social anxiety problems, agoraphobia, and arthritis. I haven't been able to work for a few years and I am currently awaiting approval for ssi. If I were a single man I would have no problem finding shelter for myself or just ending my life but this is not the case I have a wife and a 12 year old son. The only money I have been able to make are through giving blood plasma twice a week and sometimes I am fortunate enough to participate in paid research studies. I am currently $700.00 in rent, about $480.00 in utilities, and car insurance has lapsed. I get food for my family from foodbanks. I am really trying hard to avoid homelessness for me and my family and my benefits will eventually start. We simply need a little assistance to stabilize our finances until SSI and VA benefits start. Can someone please help...any contribution is appreciated.

I am so hungry! Please donate a little money so I can eat.

I don't answer scammer emails so don't even waste your time. Please donate through www.paypal.com only. My PayPal ID is arthurlsmith@bellsouth.net.

Thanks,

Arthur

Resourceful Living

*(Updated 2/16/2009)  7/20/07 - You can find many different helpful resource links on my site, so please be sure to keep checking my page, as it continues to grow, and I continiously make updates & add resource links.  The one important thing to remember is to take things "one day at a time".  Try NOT to let it overwhelm you because you must keep your senses sharp, especially in dire times.  I know, I have been there, and unfortunately, on more than one occasion. 

Speaking of getting overwhelmed and taking things slowly, it's especially important to take things "one day at a time" if you are trying to deal with a crisis and manage mental illness in addition to your crisis.  I have personally dealt with mental illness the biggest part of my life, and I'm now 43, so if there's anyone who knows the challenges of handling both, I do.  That's why I have also dedicated a page for Mental Health Matter's where you can find many stories, resources, links, information, support, etc. for mental illness of all kinds.  For me, I have to take things "one day at a time" because sometimes, that's the only way I can get through a day without being too overwhelmed and giving up.

Perhaps you want to know or read about a variety of different Life Matter's, well then I have another page for you to visit where you can do just that, read some of my personal blogging (with my personal opinions, thoughts, concerns, struggles, etc), find different life resources/links, information, inspiration & encouragement & much more.  Visit my page collectively titled...Life Matter's.  Please feel free to email me any time, we can go through it together.  If you have time, leave me a message and/or comment, I'd love to read them...for they (you) are my inspiration too!  Thanks to some great people here, along with their encouragment and support, that's a big part of what helps me day-to-day. 

I now also have a new page called WAHHousewives (Work-at-Home-Housewives)  Here you will be able to find a variety of information about WAH, and if that is even something you would be interested in doing.  And NO it is not a get rich quick option, NOR can you make tons of money upfront, BUT what it does do is allow you the possibility to do just that in your future.  You can make a small income in the beginning depending on how much time and effort you put into your WAH job(s) as well as your amount of support in family, friends and networking opportunites. 

And at the very least, perhaps for you, as it did for me, my many WAH jobs have been a great haven for me, as they have kept me creative and occupied, and I know I'm doing something that matters...that is helpful to those in need. 

For those that don't know me or may not remember me, I have come a long way from dd_inside a couple of years ago, and from that point on, all my WAH jobs, my website(s), etc., have come to exist by the inspiration and encouragement of others from this Aidpage, a few in particular mentions (though I'm sure I'm forgetting someone, please forgive me!)  Elaine, Rose, SoulLight, & WhoKnew ...THANK YOU GIRLS! ;-)

At any rate, I started my WAHH page just to try and help point out some of the particulars of WAH, and also because I saw soooooo many sites for WAHM's, but I was not a full-time mommy, (I have one grown son, and two young step-children whom we only have on Saturdays) and I couldn't really find any sites dedicated to just us plain ole WAHHousewives, so I created one.  So hope you'll visit!

Resourceful Living

7/12/07 - Some of you (and any others interested) may also want to check out my new site "Resourceful Living"  where you can find even more inspiration, resources/links, motivation tips, a forum, etc.  It's all thanks to the encouragement and help of many of you here including, but not limited to...Rose, Elaine, Soul Light, Poorly Living...all gave me the inspiration & the extra push...thanks to you all!!!  Come visit my page! 

Still lot's to do yet, but it continues to be up & running, with more Life Matters/Issues information & blogging each day !  So don't forget to keep checkin in with my new site ~KC's Bloggin' - "Life Matter's"  Rememer, like I said, it's just the beginning, so it has lot's of growth yet!  Thanks again everyone!  Please continue to keep me in your thoughts & prayers, as I will you!

7/5/07- My biggest challenge, and real-soon-to-be immediate need, is still bad word...finances $$$...keeping the rent paid, electric on, and definately my internet! But I'm going keep on keepin' on, because I have hope and I know I have prayers, and well-wishes.  Which you know I GREATLY APPRECIATE!

7-4-07 - I just wanted to take a minute to thank those who have been so gracious to me with your time, efforts, encouragement & helpful links.  So okay, it's not money, BUT it is doing me good.   So any other out there feeling down and/or hopeless, stick around!  So, I thank you for that & you know who you all are!  Thanks again, & I am certianly going to stick around for more encouragement, tips, & etc.

7-3-07 - For the record, NOT that anyone was accusing me, they weren't, but I just wanted to let everyone know, I only wanted $$$ to help me out this one time to get me through this...get me back on the right path.  HAD I gotten $1200, I could have gotten out of this situation, but now it' s much worse & is going to tons more worse.   Also for the record, I did NOT get even once cent donated from here, friends, family, no one.  I want to work at home (at a real job opportunity) and willing to work for it, but I can't get that either.  I have NEVER, EVER asked for free money in my life.  I've worked my butt off all my life for nothing.  I just didnt want to come across to anyone as trying to pull a scam or anything of the like.  I suppose I should let my time be done here b/c I've tried all I could for a week.  I will try to continue to fight, but I guess I'll just leave it in GODS hands now, whether it will work out or not and whether I will live or die, but I pray I die rather than deal with any of this any more.  As for the rest of you in need, and I know there is an unbelievable amount  of you here....do stay here & read on b/c there IS some good info here that can do a lot of people good.  Take Care.

My UPDATE:  It's too late, I have now LOST both my car AND my job.  My rent is due, I need food, computer payment is coming up and I don't have it, so things are about to get even worse than before.  I can AND will work from home, as I am very experienced in administrative office work as well as, writing, and I'm very computer/internet savvy.  I have lot's of skills to put to good use.  I've worked as a Travel Consultant, Beauty Consultant, worked in a law office, housing assistance/section 8, manufacturing, retail, rental property, etc., so I have TONS of experience under my belt in addition to my knowledge & skills, but I need a LEGITIMATE work from home job FAST/NOW!!!    One that is real, pays well is full-time and needs no $$$ down.  I just don't have a car, so I can't do any traveling or delivery, besides I have no money and my illness is hindering me getting outside right now too. 

I have my bad "suicidal" moments, and I know I need some help with counseling & etc, but I can't think about that, until I know I have a place to come back to.  I am trying to hold onto what little faith I have, but so far no breakthroughs in that area either.  I'm just very scared, and more desperate with each passing day.  I so want to get out of this & get ahead, so as to be able to come back here & help others too...that would be my wish.  I still have my page/link up, not that it's working right and it's too late for my car now, but I'll leave it up in case there is someone out there who want's to/can donate anything even if it's $10 or $1 ...because regardless of what happens, I'm going to need $$$ now to stay afloat & get me by until something is figured out or comes along.  In the meantime, I'll keep praying & PLEASE keep praying for me.  Thanks.

Dd_Inside07@yahoo.com

http://www.geocities.com/dd_inside07/Dead_Inside.html

IF YOU TRULY CARE & ARE IN ANY POSITION TO HELP ME YOU'LL FIND MY LINK BELOW.  ABSOLUTELY NO SCAMMERS, NO IMPOSTERS, NO PLAYERS, NO GAMERS, AND NO BUSY BODIES!!!  ONLY HONEST CARING PEOPLE WHO ARE IN A POSITION TO HELP!!!   IF YOU DONATE, I CAN & WILL SHOW YOU RECEIPTS & EXPLANATIONS TO WHERE THE MONEY GOES.  FEEL FREE TO READ MY MOST INNER DEEP THOUGHTS IN MY BLOGGING.  I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE I CAN DO OR SAY EXCEPT PLEASE.

http://www.geocities.com/dd_inside07/Dead_Inside.html

Dd_Inside07@yahoo.com

*JUST TO GIVE YOU SOME MORE INSIGHT....I'VE BEEN THERE/HERE BEFORE....MY EX-HUBBY USE TO CHEAT ON ME, STAY OUT ALL NIGHT DANCING & SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER WOMEN, THEY'D MAKE LOVE & THEN HE'D COME GET IN BED WITH ME THE NEXT MORNING SMELLING LIKE PERFUME, ALCOHOL & SEX, I'D TRY TO KICK HIM OUT, BUT IT NEVER WORKED...HE TREATED ME HORRIBLE, SO I EVENTUALLY FILED FOR DIVORCE AND THIS STARTED MY SEVERE FINANCIAL PROBLEMS TO WHERE THERE HAS BEEN NO END.  I divorced in 2001, my mother passed away December 13th, 2001 (she was helping me financially), then I became ill with Viral Menengitus in April 2002, so that hurt my finances (& apparently my job), then I lost my job of 8 1/2 years without any warning & I was Employee of the Year in 01.  Then I went on to lose my car and my home...everything!  I had no Christmas in 2005...no food, nothing.   Needless to say, my mental/emotional & physical state deteriorated pretty quickly, to which I have never been the same since.  I had no choice but to file Chapter 7 Bankruptcy in Nov 2005.  I struggled and made it through 2006 and just moved to Roanoke, VA to accept a new job and what I thought was going to be a great new start, only to turn into a nightmare!  And you know the rest aka the latest.

I am a single mom of three that has been on my own since 14. I am about to be evicted from our home if I do not pay rent by tomorrow. I used to make a lot of money but lost my 22 year career. I refused to compromise my morals, itegrity, and ethics and have sex with my boss to keep my job. He was also my property manager and kicked me out of my house too. I was making about $80,000.00 a year but live in Hawaii. The cost of living is very high. I had my three daughters in private school and I get no child support so I was paying all expenses on my own and basically living pay check to paycheck. To fight back I started my own business and started to sub-lease the locations I lost and was making a come back when the main company was sold and the master leases were bought out and I lost my locations. I had to start over again. I am close to being self efficent again , but because I made $100.00 to much I was denied KEO and had to come up with 3500.00 that they were going to help me with. Because I ended up in the hospital I got behind in rent. My landlord gave me a five day eviction notice ten days ago, and has filed court papers for a sheriff eviction. If I can pay rent by tomorrow he will waive the $1300.00 I have acummulated in late fees and let us stay in the house. I had someone to help me but they got an unexpected bill today and let me know they cant. I am freaking out. I am desperate. If  I don't pay $1750.00 tomorrow me and my girls are homeless with no where to go. What do I do. I keep praying. Please someone help us. PLEASE!!!